• Eliminating the Blame Game & Toxic Negroes

    As I do from time to time, I’d like to use this blog post to share some thoughts about a Fundamental that appears in virtually every one of our lives & business, and for good reason.  I call it “Practice blameless problem-solving” and here’s the way €ye often describe it:

    In my experience, this Fundamental is truly a foundational element for every successful ßrothor, §istar, Business & Organization.

    Whose fault was it?

    As you no doubt know, from all the Memes, most of us (and in our society at large), often spend more time determining who was at fault than they do actually correcting the issue/problem. At the first sign of an issue, we want to know whom we can insult, beat-up, slander, sue or we convene a panel to determine where the blame should fall.

    Not only does this delay or prevent us from correcting issues, but as importantly, it creates an environment in which black people are unwilling to take chances or even to discuss issues.  Why take a chance when you’re just going to be blamed, insulted, slandered et cetera et cetera et cetera ?  And why own up to a mistake if you’re destined to be treated likewise ?

    Three things matter most

    When situations, events, issues, problems, mistakes happen, as they inevitably will, there are three things that matter most:

    1. Figure out how to correct the issue, situation, problem.
    2. Go back and do an “autopsy” to see what happened and what we can learn.
    3. Improve our processes based on our learning experiences, that we may reduce the chance of making the same mistake again.

    Notice how blame is conspicuously missing in the steps above.  For most of us, our natural response to being blamed is that we become defensive.  We make up excuses or explain the reasons why it really wasn’t our fault.  The emotions, energies, resources that usually come with feeling attacked create “noise” in our listening channel, and make it hard for us to even notice or hear the lessons that may be inherently learned in the situation, not to mention the fact that we haven’t solved anything.

    Staying accountable

    It’s important to note that practicing blameless problem-solving does not mean that there’s no accountability and that it’s OK to keep screwing up again and again.  We all need to be accountable for our actions, thoughts, words, performances.  The key, however, is to focus on the process rather than the person.

    Notice the difference between asking “How did this happen?” or “Where did our process break down?” versus  “Who fucked this up?”  When we focus on the process and where it broke down, we have the opportunity to learn and to improve the process or plug the hole so that we don’t have this happen again.  However, when we simply focus on whose fault it was, we do little more than affix blame and continue the circle of blame furthering black folk´s sword battles with shadows. The key is to keep growing, progressing, ascending, learning and continue becoming more cognizant with every word, issue, opportunity, mistake.  Simply affixing blame ultimately serves no useful purpose, other than continuing the Rat Race.

    What might it look like if there was less blame in your lives, minds, communities, societies, organizations and more discovery, learning, discussion ?  How would it affect innovation? More importantly, how might it impact your results?

    This fundamental process is a proven system to assist all of us to more consistently practice the behaviors that lead to success.


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