I have decided, according to the rhetoric, that the comprehension is mistaken. It is not about the lead/head, it is the cue. My cue is taken based on what is presented. I know this is true in nature because the woman can bear (and be left alone with) the child. The child changes based upon the father (obviously) which means he has choice in staying but she does not hold same choice. If a woman left her child, it is after the child knows her voice and laugh and tears. Being the child's father is solely left up to the father, naturally. So being the best, most feminine representarion of a woman is in the best interest of the child, to ensure the continuation of the community. If the man does not stay, it is not an issue if the women have their own society built to support. Without that suppport, if men leave, community between the man and woman must be doomed. Eventually leading to celibacy, weariness, and fear towards the future...